Feng Shui and Dating: Tim (Nov. 2009)
Yes, Feng Shui and dating go together! I would love to share one particular story with you from the front lines of dating in 2009!
A few months ago I met a handsome, dynamic, funny, interesting, successful man on an online dating website. Not only was he all of those adjectives above, but he lived a mile from my house! “GD” as we said in Los Angeles; geographically desirable. We’ll call him Tim, to protect his identity, cause, well, let’s face it, he needs protecting!
For our second date, Tim invited me to his downtown Denver loft for a glass of wine, to talk and to listen to some music. I was excited for the invitation not just to spend time with him, but also so I could do some feng shui snooping.
It wasn’t until our third date over dinner that Tim asked me what I had seen with my feng shui eyes when I was in his home. I proceeded to share with him the following points which instantly affected me when I actually looked, and what they meant to me as a feng shui practitioner.
I shared that his home was aesthetically pleasing but it was a little sterile, more like a hotel room than a home. The feng shui’er in me recognized that he really didn’t “live” in his home but used it more as a place to sleep and shower.
I also noticed that he had pictures on the walls of his international travels to Finland, Scotland, England, etc. etc. Since there was no other art on the wall, it impressed the idea upon me that he wanted to be somewhere else other than “here.”
Mostly I noticed that he only had one bedside nightstand, on his side of the bed, and the table was actually a chessboard. There was also a lamp on the chessboard, which he brought home from work. One nightstand screams that he isn’t ready for a relationship, the fact that the nightstand was a game board told me he “played” at relationships more than committing to them, and finally, the lamp he brought home from work said he was more married to his work than to inviting in a new relationship.
I shared all of this over a very nice glass of wine and a salad at a posh restaurant downtown. He paused as he mulled over what I had shared and simply said, “Wow, all of that is true.”
So now you’re thinking, being the empowered, conscious, spiritual woman that I am, that I immediately gave him a nice little kiss on the cheek and said “thanks for the wine, call me when you’re ready to have a relationship.” But no! Even though I saw the bright neon red flags waving in my face, I still invested myself into the relationship. I mean he was handsome, dynamic, funny, interesting and successful. So what if he only had one nightstand, right?
It was really no surprise when two months later everything that I already knew about him started to seep into our experience together. Just a few days later I extricated myself from what was turning into a very unhealthy game.
So ladies and gentlemen… next time you meet someone new and exciting, and you are invited to his or her home for some get-to-know-you time, I encourage you to do just that. Really get to know him or her by taking off the rose colored glasses and using your feng shui glasses instead. Listen to your intuition and if you sense great balance in their life, jump in and enjoy the ride, or if you see that the balance is yet to be discovered, run for the hills! There is nothing more empowering to be able to see a potential mate exactly for who they are. I mean, Tim actually told me in six words, “Wow, all of that is true!” Next time I promise to listen to what my date is saying and also to my intuition.
